Steve (Property Developer) – Negative messages from his childhood had resulted in Steve going all out to be successful, to prove people they were wrong about him-he became wealthy enough to consider retiring at age 40. He also had a string of unsuccessful relationships, issues with drugs and alcohol, and a tendency to push his own ‘self-destruct’ button. He had followed a path that brought huge rewards along with huge risks. The stress was killing him, and his real passions were not being realised, due to the long hours and commitment needed in his current profession. I worked with him on resolving his negative self-concept, and give himself permission to follow his dreams. We created a plan which has financially set him up for life, he is in the process of developing a new business that reflects his values, as well as continuing to build his existing one, and has met the love of his life.
Melody (Director / Strategic Business Transformation Coach) was in a very controlling relationship, and her self-esteem as a result was less than zero. When she came to see me she was in a job she hated, a relationship that was abusive, living alone, and travelling every weekend to see her partner.
I worked with her for 14 sessions. She left her relationship, moved back to London, flat shared with some lively, positive people, and then launched her own business which has gone from strength to strength.
“I’ve changed. Something shifted, and I changed without trying, it was amazing.” Melody
Ken-(Senior manager) suffering total mid-life/existential crisis. Decided he wanted more meaning from his life, and felt disillusioned by his current lifestyle. Worked with him on building Emotional Intelligence, and making choices based on what he wanted, and what he was passionate about. He left his job, and took the leap of faith to setup his own company doing something that satisfied his need to ‘give back’. He has found purpose, meaning and value in his life, and his past anxiety and stress are no longer an issue.
‘I always thought life coaches were a waste of time, but I’m proof that having someone challenge your excuses and help overcome blocks that you’re not even aware of, is invaluable. I would not be where I am now if I hadn’t took that leap of faith.’ Ken
Catherine (Air NZ-working mum) Mum of 2 children under the age of 5. Contacted me whilst on maternity leave. I worked with her to create a smooth transition for returning to the workplace. Both practical and emotional obstacles were addressed and resolved. It was so successful she was offered promotion, which she confidently accepted, within 3 months of returning.
Anna (Business Manager) – In an abusive relationship-justifying why she stays and doesn’t leave. Two young children. Threat of redundancy. Wanted to change career and do something she was passionate about.
After 12 sessions of working with me, she left her partner, sold her house, bought a new one for her and her children. She furthered her training, which created new opportunities for her in the area of work she was passionate about. Not only did she hold onto her job, but she negotiated a better package and job spec, to utilise her training and realise her passion. Her self-esteem and self-belief has increased 150%, and she’s never been happier.
“I have become aware of what it means to respect myself and to receive respect from others. During several of our sessions I had what I can only describe as ‘breakthrough’ moments, where I knew exactly what I must do and what it would mean if I took action.” Anna
Kate (Teacher) – Always been controlled by others. First her parents and then her husband. Let others make decisions for her. She was unable to hold eye contact during her first session with me, and felt she had no idea who she was. She had never travelled out of New Zealand.
After only 6 sessions (We completed 10 sessions in total) she had requested a sabbatical from her job, told her husband she was going travelling indefinitely, and enrolled to go and work as a volunteer in Africa for 10 weeks, to help village women build businesses.
She finally returned to NZ a new woman. She’s independent, able to make decisions, and know what she wants and is now not frightened of going for it.
Jamie (Artist) – Had his own plumbing business but felt unhappy and dissatisfied. He was a very creative person and had been an art student, when he had a traumatic experience, which had such an effect on him he decided to drop out of art school. After working with me, he re-enrolled in an art course, but this time he succeeded in gaining a place at one of the most prestigious schools in London-St.Martins School of Art. Upon completing his degree, he was snapped up by one of the world’s leading sculptors to work alongside them.
Kirsten (Textile design lecturer) suffered M.E, and often used it as an excuse not to do things. It became her protection. I worked with her on changing her focus from her diagnosed illness, and what she felt unable to do, to what she would love to do with her life, and the skills and strengths she had to move towards that. She discovered that it wasn’t M.E that was holding her back, but the limiting beliefs she had adopted from her mum, and the conditional ‘love/acceptance’ that was tied up in them. She is now a successful lecturer, passionate about her work. Something she always felt was impossible before.
“After every session I have walked away feeling a stronger and more positive person.” Kirsten
Jim (Law Breaker-doing ‘time’) Jim was held in a secure, forensic, psychiatric ward for men diagnosed with Personality Disorder. I worked with him to build positive self-regard, self-worth and self-belief, among other things. He had been criticised, talked down to, and abused all his life. He was labelled by society, and so labelled himself- BAD. He was a prolific self harmer and would cut 5-6 times a day at his peak, and would act out every day . After I had worked with him for 6 months, his daily self harming ceased and his violent acting out stopped.