Teaching our Children to Listen to Their Inner Champion
I facilitated a group workshop yesterday, for children and their parents in Auckland, with many ideas that are reflected in this short video. http://www.6seconds.org/2013/04/10/three-essential-facts-about-feelings/
This video summarises perfectly the purpose of our emotions. We need not fear them, avoid them, or deny them, because in doing so we are missing an opportunity to grow and learn about ourselves. We are often sold the idea that unless we feel the more ‘positive’ emotions, the acceptable ones, then we must not acknowledge them-a notion picked up from the trend in positive psychology!(we then had a discussion to share that no emotions are negative as they ALL have a positive intent). I asked the children to separate a list of feelings words that we had gathered on the whiteboard, into ‘positive’ and ‘negative’. They assigned the word ‘Proud’ to the ‘negative bin reinforced by their parents. What do you think about that? I am increasingly realising, through work with clients, that this is one of the sources of lack of self worth I witness almost daily in my practice room.
Listen to a podcast I was interviewed for, by the lovely Vikki Kelly from ‘The Wellness Couch’, talking about my favourite topic-teaching children Mindfulness and Emotional Intelligence!
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Mindfulness and Emotional Intelligence (EQ) Coaching
How would you like your child to excel academically and personally, be focussed and motivated, able to communicate effectively, and be able to create strong and lasting relationships? To breeze through adolescence, with a ‘can do’ approach, and ‘anything is possible’ attitude, setting goals and achieving them?
In this increasingly fast moving and unpredictable world, where rapid social change is the norm, academic qualifications will no longer be enough to compete and succeed in life. There is an increasing need for developing social and emotional skills in our young people. I have a passion for supporting young people in discovering and developing their human potential, not just their intellectual potential.
EQ is four times more important than IQ for success in life!
Research shows that IQ, the conventional measure of intelligence, accounts for 20% of a person’s success in life, and Emotional Intelligence (EQ) accounts for the other 80%. Young people who develop high EQ are more likely to:
- Achieve increased academic and personal success. Demonstrating increased engagement and focus in school and able to set and achieve goals.
- They become effective leaders, and enjoy successful careers.
- Able to take responsibility for themselves and their own learning.
- Improved relationships with parents, teachers and peers. Open communication.
- Emotionally mature and self-aware.
- Able to manage anger, stress, anxiety and other strong emotions.
- Develop resilience and perseverance.
- Have an awareness of WHO they are and their identity. Not bow to peer pressure.
- Values based decision making.
- Able to identify and express feelings.
- Have high self-esteem, confidence and experience greater happiness.
- Effective problem solving conflict resolution skills
Young people are LESS likely to use alcohol or drugs, bully or be bullied, resort to crime and anti-social behaviours, self-harm, have suicidal thoughts, or develop eating disorders. Young people who practice Mindfulness and develop high E.Q. experience less depression, stress, and anxiety, than individuals with low EQ.
Emotional Intelligence is like the secret weapon for success! A new superpower! By supporting your child your child in developing their EQ now, you can build on their achievement in the present, and secure their success for the future.
I am a qualified Psychotherapist and Mindfulness & Emotional Intelligence Coach. I offer one-to-one Coaching, as well as group coaching sessions according to personal requirements. My service also offers Mindfulness and Emotional Intelligence Coaching for parents and teachers, either one to one or group sessions and school based programmes.
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Lynne: Polkadot Coaching: 021 08282565 firstname.lastname@example.org www.polkadotcoaching.co.nz
Fantastic!But ‘mindfulness’ on it’s own is not enough.Mindfulness is the preparation, it encourages the awareness. Emotional Intelligence(E.Q)skills then show how you can use that awareness with positive effect.Mindfulness is only a fraction of the full picture.E.Q. is the game changer! I used to work with clients in psych wards, drug rehabs, and a mens prison, (where I taught Mindfulness and E.Q. to 950 male prisoners) It was their comments ‘Miss, why didn’t they teach us this in schools?’ which lead me to create a programme for school children, that uses Mindfulness as the vehicle to access what the students need to develop Emotional Intelligence(E.Q). Without E.Q. children have a very uncertain future especially in this unpredictable, fast, pressured and ever changing modern world.
If you’d like to find out more about my Mindfulness and Emotional Intelligence programme for schools please contact me.
My coaching & counselling work with drug addicts, prisoners, and psychiatric patients has been recognised, as well as my unrelenting determination to getting my Mindfulness and Emotional Intelligence programme into schools, ensuring young people are equipped with the life skills they need. My passion, commitment and dedication to increasing Mental Health, using Mindfulness and Emotional Intelligence, has been acknowledged.
I am proud to share, as a result, that I am a finalist for the International Coach of the Year 2015 Award. Results are announced 5th December. Unfortunately I can’t make the awards ceremony back in the U.K.
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Addiction whether it’s drugs, alcohol, over eating, shopping, gambling, promiscuous sex, or any other kind of unhealthy, destructive, compulsive behaviour is not about the behaviour…it’s about disconnection…..and not only disconnection with others…. but MORE importantly disconnection with SELF.
- Loss of SELF-e.g. in an abusive relationship
- Compromising or sacrificing SELF-putting others needs before your own
- Conditioned into not being your SELF- i.e. trying to be someone else
- Never having known your SELF -lack of Emotional Intelligence regarding Self-awareness, Values, Purpose, and meaning in your life
- Hating SELF-self-loathing, shame, guilt
All of these consequences of ‘SELF’ can result in seeking solace from unhealthy behaviours. The addiction is the EFFECT the CAUSE is the disconnection from SELF. This is where the work needs to be focussed and where the solution lies.
The most important relationship you will ever have is the one with yourself.
How AMAZING is this! The way schools deliver education now is no longer suitable to the demands of 21st C living which requires flexibility, versatility, problem solving, open mindedness and creativity, in this ever changing, fast moving, global stage we live on. Parrot fashion education suited the needs of the Industrial Revolution but we are now in the ‘Thinking Revolution’. Give our kids the skills they need to navigate this new landscape.
I have recently completed design and delivery of a pilot programme of Mindfulness and Emotional Intelligence sessions focused on year 8 students, into a school in Auckland. The programme was so effective and positively received by both students and teachers, that I have been given the green light to expand it and roll it out to the whole school.
It has taken two years for me convince the some of the decision makers in school’s, of the value and need for this kind of education. This is not a luxury item on the school curriculum it is a necessity in this fast changing, stress busting, target driven society we now live in.
The teaching of Mindfulness practice and developing Emotional Intelligence (E.Q) are, I believe,THE most essential tools for equipping our children for life.
Young people who develop high E.Q. are are less likely to have anger management issues or suffer anxiety and depression, use alcohol or drugs, self-harm, display anti-social behaviours, or get caught up in bullying. They are more likely to achieve academic success, enjoy successful careers, become effective leaders and develop strong personal & professional relationships. High E.Q. results in increased self awareness, resilience, confidence, effective communication skills.Young people with high E.Q. display a strong sense of ‘self’, so are less vulnerable to peer pressure, and experience a good quality of life. They are more popular with peers, have higher self-esteem and experience greater happiness, than individuals with low E.Q
Emotional Intelligence is 80% more important than IQ in determining success in life.
Schools could be investing more resources and attention into the well-being and mental capital of their students, as the focus at the moment seems to be increasingly on meeting academic targets. This would have a positive impact on all areas of the individual’s life, including their academic success
In both workplaces and schools, individuals are judged on their performance against a set of rigid criteria which does not allow for everyone’s uniqueness and difference.
Young people are being encouraged to conform and ‘fit in’, becoming part of the homogenous masses, not supported in finding out ‘who’ they are, what they feel, or what they want. How they look, what they have, rather than who they are, is increasingly the criteria that young people judge each other by, resulting in individuals seeking external guidance and validation, which further removes them from their own internal G.P.S, or organismic valuing process.
This creates identity, self-esteem and confidence issues. The media portray pictures of ‘perfect’ people living ‘perfect’ lives. Our materialistic and consumerist lead society tells us what we should be buying, wearing and doing. In fact we’ve been taught who we’re meant to be, what we’re meant to have, and what we’re meant to be pursuing since our early years.
This lifestyle is creating depressed people, we are seeing rising mental illness in our society, and stress and anxiety is increasing partly as a result of trying to live up to these unrealistic expectations. We lose about 10 Kiwi lives every week to suicide. 541 Kiwis committed suicide in the last year and suicides among women and girls increased from 142 in 2011/12 to 153 in 2012/13.
By teaching young people how to manage their emotions, to recognise feelings, and be able to verbalise what is going on for them, we can equip our youth with essential tools for living life in 21st C.